What does your ideal life look like? A life where you know who you are, who you want to be, and what stands in the way?
I’ll spare you the classic therapist spiel; here’s how therapy with me will work: first we need to gain insight. There’s a lot we have to look for in order to understand who we are. Why do we do what we do? How do we perceive ourselves? What aspects of ourselves do we value? What aspects are we ashamed of? What triggers us, and how do we react as a result of those triggers? How do we interact and connect with others? How well did we (or did we not) connect with our primary caregivers? What core beliefs about ourselves and the world around us do we have based on our primary attachments and the dominant discourses that we were a part of? How do we make meaning and what assumptions do we hold? How do we communicate, and what defense mechanisms do we use? What are our deepest longings and unmet needs?... and much more.
Once we have insight, we work on healing and changing behaviors that don’t serve us anymore, so we can focus on solutions. And don’t worry, if all of that sounds overwhelming, it’s my job to walk you through it. We can either do it in my office in Hermosa Beach, California or virtually.
Individual Therapy
Whether your relationship is up against one big issue (infidelity, intimacy, jealousy, parenting) or what feels like a million small ones (who is emptying the dishwasher), you want to figure it out together. You might even just want to add tools to your toolbox for when it comes to approaching sticky subjects! Therapy can help you and your partner uncover your needs and longings and teach you how to communicate them, so they can be met.
I’ll work with you as a couple to isolate exactly what is going wrong. Once we have that insight, we can dig deeper into why. We’ll look into what wounds might need healing within the relationship in order to shift towards new patterns. We’ll find actionable ways to heal those wounds through your trust in each other and your changes as a partnership.
Relationships are not 50-50. Each partner is expected to give 100% without keeping the score. Couples therapy is a place to explore and learn how to give what we can without hurting each other on the days when we don't have 100% to give.
Couples Therapy
Want to jumpstart reconnecting with your partner or figure out what the next step in your relationship is? Weekend intensives are really helpful for couples who want to do a lot of work together in a short amount of time, learn how to connect on a deeper level, or explore what therapy together feels like before deciding how to proceed.
For now, weekend intensives are only offered in person in Hermosa Beach, California.
Weekend Intensives for Couples
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Get to know your partner on a deeper level, whether you are a committed couple moving in for the very first time, getting ready for marriage, or just want to prepare to be together for a very long time.
Learn communication skills and how to effectively solve potential conflict.
It’s important to know how to handle any issues that may come up, to be prepared to communicate effectively to get both partners’ needs met and for each partner to truly feel seen, known and heard.
Make sure that you and your partner are on the same page with aligned values and matched visions of the future, whatever that might look like for you.
Premarital Therapy
It's my job to help you figure out what the next steps are! If you think we might be a good fit for either individual or couples therapy, please reach out. I offer a free consultation where we can get to know each other better; you can ask any questions you might have and decide if the fit is right. We'll take it together from there. I can work with you in person in Hermosa Beach or virtually from anywhere in California.
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