As an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (License No. 131235) located in Hermosa Beach, California.
I come from a very relational and attachment framework in my work. I can't help but be intrigued by the ways in which relationships impact peoples' lives! Before you ask, I do still work with plenty of individuals.
Worked with couples, kids and their parents, and other individuals with all kinds of presenting issues.
Mediating people who are about to get divorced wasn't my cup of tea; I realized that helping people make it work is more my jam. That's when I decided to become a therapist!
Spent a lot of time dancing and acting, developing my love for storytelling.
Fascination with stories and storytelling influenced my approach in therapy by paying special attention to stories people tell themselves, stories people hear about themselves, and stories people wish to write about themselves.
I prefer my coffee strong and black. That probably says everything you need to know. I prefer to skip small talk and head right into a deep midnight conversation. When I'm not helping others heal through relationships, set boundaries, or feel comfortable with who they are, you're most likely to find me buried in mythology or Russian literature (or rewatching Gilmore Girls for the hundredth time). Now, it's only fair for me to tell you what I'm less great at... in case you're curious, it's putting up with the mundane, traffic, time management, and not knowing the answers.
My style is direct, strengths-based, person-centered, and creative. In a session, the client is the expert of their life and I, as the therapist, play a few roles to facilitate the client’s journey. I am a co-author: helping you bring life to the stories that don’t align with the description of your problem-saturated stories. I am a guide on your journey of self-discovery and self-actualization: helping you figure out what stories you want to have about your life and how to get there. Finally, I am a teacher: helping you identify your emotions and unmet needs and finding constructive ways of communicating them.
We rewrite your dominant narrative to rightfully include those positive stories to create a more realistic story of yourself and your life. This results in the realization that people are people and problems are problems; your problems are not who you are; they are just obstacles that happen to everyone. We all are just people who live our lives and occasionally encounter unusual and difficult life experiences.
The goal of rewriting our story is to have an agency over our lives. It is important to understand how we have contributed to our own reality; what is in our control; and how we wish to change it (and then doing the work!). When we understand what part we play in a problem-saturated narrative and take responsibility for it , we can move our focus toward solutions.
We stop actively engaging in those negative stories that do not accurately represent your lived experience and begin to focus on the positive stories which highlight your strengths and achievements.
We realize that those negative stories are not the only stories about your lived experience.
I believe that problems happen when our expectations do not match our realities. Time and again people blame themselves or others into believing something is wrong with them, and that THEY are indeed the problem. When you can't separate person-from-problem, an assortment of negative stories that impact our emotions, relationships, and self-esteem get created.
How does this all apply to your story? In our work together, we'll focus on three steps to a solution: