What Is Disorganized Attachment? Disorganized attachment is a concept from developmental psychology—specifically attachment theory—that describes a pattern of insecure bonding that can develop during childhood. This type of attachment often arises from caregiving experiences that are inconsistent, neglectful, or even frightening. Think of it as an internal tug-of-war about closeness. On one hand, there is […]

Exploring the Complexities of Avoidant Attachment in Therapy In the world of relationships and emotional connection, attachment styles reign supreme in shaping how we interact, love, and build bonds. Among these styles, avoidant attachment stands out as particularly intriguing—and often misunderstood. As a therapist in Hermosa Beach working with individuals and couples, I frequently see […]

Exploring the Roots of Anxious Attachment Anxious attachment is a term that often comes up in conversations about relationships and mental health. But what does it really mean? In this article, we’re diving deep into the roots of anxious attachment to help you understand this complex concept. Whether you’re exploring individual therapy, couples therapy, or […]

Understanding Why Anxious and Avoidant Partners Attract Relationships are wonderfully complex, aren’t they? Especially when it comes to attachment styles. Understanding how these patterns shape our connections can help us build healthier, happier bonds. For anyone navigating love and relationships—or just trying to make sense of their partner’s quirks—understanding attachment styles is a game-changer. In […]

The Journey of Love, Conflict, and Healing What’s really happening when we fall in love or face conflict in our relationships? And why do some couples seem to face a constant uphill battle? These questions dig into the deeper dynamics of love, how we grow, and what we seek in a partner. Understanding these forces […]

Conflict in relationships is inevitable. Whether you’re navigating a marriage, a long-term partnership, or even a close friendship, disagreements and tension are bound to arise. But what if these moments of discord weren’t just roadblocks? What if they were opportunities for growth, connection, and deeper understanding? As a therapist specializing in couples therapy and individual […]

So, you’re in a relationship. Congrats! But, if you’re like most couples, at some point, you’ve probably noticed this weird back-and-forth dynamic. You want to connect, but your partner is hiding in the other room. Or maybe you’re the one making excuses to avoid the third “let’s talk” of the week. This, my friends, is […]

Infidelity can indeed rattle the very core of a relationship, leaving partners wrestling with the dual demons of betrayal and heartbreak. When trust is broken, it often feels like the entire foundation of the relationship has been shaken, and the path forward may seem uncertain. Navigating this tumultuous terrain can be overwhelming, but therapy provides […]

Most of us carry a bit of childhood with us, whether it’s joyful memories of family holidays or the sting of tough times and unmet needs. When negative experiences from childhood leave a lasting impact, they form what many call the “inner child”—a part of us that holds onto those early memories and feelings. For […]

As a therapist in Hermosa Beach, working with both couples and individuals, I’ve seen firsthand how understanding and practicing the right love languages can completely transform a relationship. We’ve all heard about the classic love languages—words of affirmation, acts of service, and so on—but two vital ones often fly under the radar: consistency and emotional […]