And those are highly impacted by what our experiences have been outside of them!
The first thing we need to learn about successful relationships is how to deepen empathy and ease judgement. In order to do that we need to understand each others' inner worlds, including one's own sets of values and the different realities that they are experiencing. Once we understand each others' worlds, we can learn how to show up for our partners in a way they need us to.
It’s about understanding each others' inner worlds
COUPLES THERAPy
Together, we will explore your early relationships, attachments to primary caregivers, and how those relationships are affecting the way you connect and relate to others in present relationships, particularly in your partnership.
I will help you as a couple to recognize and change destructive patterns, develop a secure connection, heal childhood wounds with each others' help, reduce self-and-other-blame, regain intimacy, and teach you how to communicate your needs and feelings. Sounds easy, right? It can be when I walk you through it!
What is going on inside, outside, and between you both?
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reach out
“We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship."
H. Hendrix
As a therapist who immigrated after High School, I have had life experience both in the US and abroad. I truly get what differing cultural experiences can be like. I can help you as a couple to understand the ways in which each of your individual cultural experiences impacts your relationships. When it comes to cultural norms and familial expectations that might not be aligned or familiar, I will help you to meet in the middle, and understand each others' experience.
No two people come from exactly the same background
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I’ll help you and your partner co-parent in a way that works for your unique family. We’ll focus on the way in which you communicate with each other and your children, so that everyone can grow together. We’ll work together to build a family dynamic that is responsive to what’s going on in your family, and help everyone to feel more connected. When each family member can prioritize their own self worth, knows what is expected of them, and is allowed to make mistakes, families thrive.
Create a family in which all members thrive, not just co-exist.
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I’m a novice when it comes to receiving.
Giving has become my second expertise,
But giving alone without getting
Becomes soon a fatal disease.
If the intake valve is not opened
There’s no way to maintain a supply
There comes a point in a cycle of life
Where the out-going stream runs dry.
Straining out love from a vacuum
Is like drinking from the heart of a stone.
Try as we may, at the end of the day,
We’re exhausted, frustrated, alone.
‘Better to give than to receive’ we are taught
Yet another truth I’ve learnt just by living:
Only the soul with the grace to receive,
Excels in the fine art of giving.
