No one can prepare you for how tender and overwhelming it can feel to become a mother - not just logistically, but emotionally, relationally, and existentially. You might feel disoriented, stretched thin or like you’re grieving the version of yourself that existed before all this. You may be exhausted from the pressure to do it all with grace and gratitude, while quietly wondering who you are now or what your needs even are anymore.
We talk about the part of motherhood that doesn’t always get airtime - the part where your identity feels blurred around the edges, your emotions feel bigger than they used to, and even small acts like taking a shower or drinking coffee while it’s still hot feel like rare, precious luxuries. You’re not failing. And you’re definitely not the only one who feels this way.
Becoming a mother is beautiful- yes, but it can also be lonely, overwhelming, and deeply disorienting. Your relationships may feel different. Your patience may feel thinner. You might feel far away from the version of yourself you once knew, trying to find her again in the middle of one of life’s most profound transitions.
In therapy, we slow things down enough to make sense of what you’re carrying. We talk honestly about survival mode, emotional exhaustion, and the quiet ways mothers often put themselves last just to get through the day. Therapy becomes a place to steady yourself, reconnect with your inner world, and build practical, compassionate ways to care for yourself while caring for everyone else.
Therapy gives you a chance to pause, exhale, and begin that reconnection to the parts of you that are still here: wise, tender, strong, and deeply deserving of care. Together, we’ll make room for your grief and your joy, your fear and your love, so you can navigate this chapter with more steadiness and self-compassion, so you can move from just surviving motherhood to feeling more grounded, present, and connected to yourself, to your relationships, and to the kind of mother you want to be.
Let’s start there.
We'll make space for your inner voice- the parts that have gone quiet under the weight of “being everything for everyone.” We'll explore your identity now, in this chapter of your life, and gently question the stories you've been told about what a “good mother” should be. You weren’t meant to vanish in motherhood. Together, we’ll figure out where you went missing, and what it looks like to reclaim the pieces of your identity that matter. The creative one, the sexual one, the ambitious one, the one who rests. They all still live in you.
What do you need, that you haven’t said out loud yet?
What would it feel like and what would look like to take up just a little more space in your own life?
If you’re constantly measuring yourself against impossible standards, it’s no wonder you feel like you’re falling short. We’ll explore where those expectations come from: your family, culture or internalized beliefs, and begin replacing them with something more self-compassionate, more human, and more you.
You don’t need to perform gratitude or pretend you're okay just because you're "lucky to have a kid." Therapy is a place to be honest about what this season is really like: yes the gratitude and the joy, but also the rage, the confusion, the grief. We’ll create room for it all because when you’re allowed to feel, you begin to heal.
What are messy and unmanageable feelings that you are holding in? Is it rage, sadness, resentment, guilt or grief?
We'll look at how your early relationships and attachment experiences are impacting how you show up for your child, your partner, and yourself. Maybe becoming a mom stirred up things you didn’t expect: old wounds, unmet needs or memories you haven’t thought about in years. We’ll gently unpack how your early relationships shaped the way in how you soothe, how you connect, how you expect to be treated, and we will begin to rewire what no longer fits.
Did anyone teach you how to be cared for without guilt or conditions?
What did love require of you growing up?