A life where you move with clarity knowing who you are, who you're becoming, and what stands in the way. Where you respond to life instead of just reacting. Where your patterns make more sense, your pain feels less lonely, and your choices feel more intentional.
You have wounds that need tending, patterns that once protected you but now ask to be unlearned, and new ways of being that want to be practiced.
It takes time to unravel what was passed down, and even more time to replace it with something new. But nothing is broken at your core. Nothing is wrong with you.
You deserved to be seen, understood, valued, and loved. And therapy can be the space where all of that begins to unfold.
I believe meaningful therapy invites us into a deeper relationship with ourselves. It’s not about quick fixes or learning how to tolerate more of the same; it’s about understanding why we are the way we are, feeling what we’ve had to suppress, and learning how to do things differently. Whether you’re coming together in couples therapy to explore patterns in your relationship or seeking online therapy to do this work from home anywhere in California, we’ll create a safe space to slow down, notice what’s happening beneath the surface, and practice new ways of being with yourself and each other.
Many patterns of self-criticism or avoidance come from unmet needs early in life. Therapy helps you connect with your inner child, learn to nurture yourself, and develop self-parenting skills that bring more safety, care, and trust in yourself.
Neurodivergent clients often experience the world differently in terms of executive functioning, feelings, processing and communication. Therapy provides a supportive space to understand your unique needs, navigate challenges, and develop strategies that honor how you relate to yourself and others.
We begin by exploring your early relational world. Not because we’re looking to blame your parents, but because our earliest attachments shape how we learn to relate to others, to ourselves, to our needs, to conflict, to intimacy, to achievement, to everything.
No one grows up in a perfectly attuned environment. Even the most loving caregivers can miss things. And so, we adapt. We learn how to be safe, how to belong, how to stay connected. Maybe you learned to be the good one, the achiever, the invisible one, the peacekeeper, the caretaker, or the emotionally self-sufficient one. These survival strategies once served you, but now? They might be keeping you stuck.
In therapy, we begin asking:
What did you have to do to stay connected to the people you depended on? Who did you have to become to feel safe, accepted or loved?
What needs did you have to mute to maintain closeness? What do you believe you’re allowed to need or not need from others?How did your family handle conflict? Vulnerability? Boundaries?
What core beliefs about yourself were formed in that early environment? What parts of you were welcomed? What parts were ignored, criticized, or misunderstood?
What roles did you play that still show up in your adult life even when they no longer fit?
We begin to see that who you are is not fixed or broken. You’re not the problem. The ways you learned to be were intelligent responses to your environment. Now, you get to choose something new.
Once we understand the protective patterns that shaped you, we turn toward what got pushed aside along the way. Maybe it wasn’t safe to be angry or sad or playful or excited. Maybe you learned that needing too much made you a burden or that being so happy made others uncomfortable.
When we cut off certain emotions to stay close to others, those emotions don’t disappear. They live in the body, and they find ways to speak through anxiety, burnout, irritability, shame, perfectionism, shutdown or chronic over-functioning.
In therapy, we make space for those feelings to come forward - not just talk about them, but actually feel them, in real time, in a way that’s held, slow, and safe.
This is where healing begins: when you stop abandoning parts of yourself just to stay acceptable to others.
Together we’ll explore:
What feelings did you learn to suppress or disown? What emotions feel threatening or “too much”?
What does your body do when big feelings start to surface? Where do those emotions live in your body now?
Where do you feel disconnected from your emotional self or overwhelmed by it? What have those buried parts of you been trying to say?
How do you protect yourself from feeling too much, and how has that been both helpful and limiting?
What would it be like to give yourself permission to feel fully, without shame or apology?
Insight and emotional release are powerful, but change happens in the small, everyday choices we make. Healing is not just about understanding; it’s about doing something different, in real time. Insight opens the door, but practice walks you through it. This layer of therapy is about integrating what you’ve learned into how you live. It’s not theoretical- it’s lived, practiced, tried on in real time.
Maybe it looks like:
Saying no without guilt
Allowing rest without earning it
Speaking up when something hurts
Receiving care instead of always giving it
Slowing down instead of speeding past your needs
Choosing a partner or job or life that aligns with who you are now and not who you had to be
This is where we ask:
What patterns do I want to shift?
What feels possible now that didn’t before?
What behaviors align with the version of myself I’m becoming?
Where can I experiment with being more honest, more soft, more bold, more true?
What happens when I choose something different, and how can I keep choosing it, again and again?
This is not about becoming a “better” version of yourself. It’s about becoming more you. More whole, more connected, more alive. Therapy becomes the space to try, fail, adjust, and try again until change becomes something that lives in your body, not just your head.Paragraph
After spending years in mediation with couples at the end of their relationships, I decided to head down a more positive path becoming a therapist who specializes in work with couples. The goal in therapy is for clients to gain clarity and direction in their relationships, and to learn tools for happier and healthier bonds with their partners.
My main theoretical approach to couples therapy is Imago Relationship Therapy that believes that our childhood experiences and attachment wound create expectations and defenses that cause problems in our relationship. The goal of therapy is to help couples heal old childhood wounds by recognizing and interrupting old patterns and developing healthier ones.
While I take most from Imago, I consider myself an integrative therapists by borrowing from different modalities I am trained in.
Reach out using the contact form. Share a bit about what’s bringing you to therapy- no need to overthink it. I’ll get back to you with next steps.
We’ll start with a free call. This is a chance for both of you to ask questions, get a feel for my approach, and see if we’re a good fit. No pressure, just conversation.
If we decide to work together, in our first full session, we’ll dive into what’s been feeling stuck or painful in your relationship. I’ll help you both slow things down, name what’s not working, and begin mapping a path forward.
We’ll work together weekly (or biweekly, depending on your needs) to build stronger communication, heal past wounds, and create more connections. Every step is tailored to your relationship, not a one-size-fits-all plan.
In all the world, there is no one exactly like me. There are persons who have some parts like me, but no one adds up exactly like me. Therefore, everything that comes out of me is authentically mine because I alone choose it.
I own everything about me; my body including everything it does; my mind including all its thoughts and ideas; my eyes including the images of all they behold; my feelings whatever they may be… anger, joy, frustration, love, disappointment, excitement; my mouth and all of the words that come out of it polite, sweet or rough, correct or incorrect; my voice loud or soft; and all my actions, whether they be to others or to myself.
I am me.
I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By doing so, I can love me and be friendly with me in all parts. I can then make it possible for all of me to work in my best interests. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me and other aspects that I do not know. But as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and for ways to find out more about me.
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is ME. This is authentic and represents where I am in that moment in time. When I review later how I looked and sounded, what I said and did, and how I thought and felt, some parts may turn out to be unfitting. I can discard that which is unfitting, and keep that which proved fitting, and invent something new for that which I discarded.
You don't have to wait until you're overwhelmed or in crisis to start individual therapy. Therapy can be helpful when you notice that the same concerns keep coming up, your usual ways of coping aren't working as well, or you're having difficulty navigating a change or challenge on your own. You may be struggling with your relationships, feeling overwhelmed by emotions, questioning your choices, or simply wanting support as you work through something difficult. You don't need to have everything figured out before you reach out.
Individual therapy can help you understand patterns that affect the way you think, feel, make decisions, and relate to yourself and others. Together, we can explore what drives these patterns and what becomes possible when you have more choice in how you respond. The goal isn't to become a different person. It's to feel more at home in yourself and more intentional in the life you're creating.
Yes. Sometimes you know that you keep ending up in the same situations, reacting in the same ways or choosing relationships that don't feel good for you but you don't understand why. Individual therapy can help you become curious about what's underneath those patterns. We can explore how earlier experiences shaped what feels familiar, what you learned to expect from yourself and others, and what your emotional reactions may be trying to protect you from. Understanding where a pattern comes from can be the first step toward having more choice in how you respond.
Yes. Understanding a pattern doesn't necessarily make it easier to change. You may know exactly why you people-please, avoid conflict, shut down, over-function, or struggle to set boundaries and still feel unable to do anything differently. Sometimes these patterns are connected to deeper emotional wounds that need to be worked through, rather than simply understood.
Therapy can help you develop the capacity to tolerate the discomfort that comes with doing something new. That might mean giving yourself permission to disappoint someone, allowing another person to have negative feelings without immediately taking responsibility for them, or setting a boundary even when part of you is afraid of what will happen next. Change happens through practice. The more you experience yourself doing something differently and discover that you can tolerate the feelings that come with it, the more those new experiences can begin to replace old expectations. These corrective experiences are an important part of creating lasting change.
Yes. Therapy can give you space to become curious about who you are beneath the roles, expectations, and beliefs you've accumulated over time. You may discover that some of what you consider to be your personality is actually a way you've learned to adapt, stay connected or feel safe. We can explore your needs, values, emotions, strengths, and the different parts of yourself that may sometimes seem to want conflicting things. Greater self-understanding can help you make choices that feel more authentic rather than simply doing what you've learned is expected of you.
Absolutely. Even when you're coming to therapy on your own, relationships are often an important part of the work. Individual therapy can help you recognize patterns such as people-pleasing, difficulty trusting, avoiding conflict, over-functioning, or struggling to express your needs. As you become more aware of these patterns, you can begin practicing different ways of communicating, setting boundaries, receiving care, and staying connected without losing yourself.
Sometimes the hardest struggles to recognize are the ones that don't look like struggles from the outside. You may be successful, responsible, and functioning well while feeling disconnected, unfulfilled, anxious, or unsure of what you actually want. You may have spent so much time meeting expectations and taking care of what needs to be done that you've lost touch with your own needs and desires. Individual therapy can give you space to slow down, reconnect with yourself, and explore what a more authentic and fulfilling life might look like.
Individual therapy is a collaborative process rather than a formula or a set of instructions. We'll talk about what's bringing you in, but we'll also pay attention to the patterns underneath it. Some sessions may involve making sense of your history; others may focus on emotions, relationships, boundaries, or something happening in your life right now. Over time, the goal is to understand yourself more deeply, feel more connected to your emotional experience, and practice new ways of being that feel more authentic and sustainable.
Individual Therapy in Hermosa Beach, the South Bay & Los Angeles
I provide in-person individual therapy from my Hermosa Beach office for adults throughout the South Bay, including Manhattan Beach, Redondo Beach, and El Segundo. I also offer online individual therapy to clients throughout California, including the greater Los Angeles area. Whether you're looking for an individual therapist in the South Bay or prefer the flexibility of online therapy, our work is tailored to what you're experiencing and what you want to change.