Bringing a baby into the world is life-changing: beautiful, exhausting, overwhelming, and everything in between. You knew things would shift, but maybe you didn’t expect just how much your relationship would be tested. Suddenly, the person you once stayed up late laughing with is now someone you argue with over who got less sleep.
You're not alone. Studies show that most couples experience a dip in relationship satisfaction in the first few years of parenthood. Some find a way to adapt and grow together, while others struggle to feel like a team. That’s where therapy comes in- helping you figure out what’s not working and how to rebuild connection in this new phase of life.
Therapy for New Parents in Los Angeles
Couples therapy for New Parents in Hermosa Beach and Los Angeles
Even when it feels like a dream come true, parenthood can also stir up things you didn’t expect: tension with your partner, resentment about the division of labor, loneliness, anxiety, or grief for the life you had before. Maybe you’re snapping at each other more than you’d like. Maybe you’re doing okay logistically but feel miles apart emotionally. Or maybe you just don’t feel like yourself, and you’re not sure how to name what’s happening.
Therapy for new parents is a space to slow down and make sense of it all. Not just to survive this chapter, but to stay connected to yourself, to each other, and to the kind of family you want to build.
Becoming a Parent Changes Everything Including Your Relationship With Yourself and Each Other
Couples therapy for New Parents in Hermosa Beach and Los Angeles
Couples therapy for New Parents in Hermosa Beach and Los Angeles
We might be a good fit If...
You both love your baby, but it feels like you've lost each other in the swirl of sleep schedules, feedings, and constant logistics.
We might be a good fit If...
Intimacy feels harder than it used to - physically, emotionally or both. You miss the closeness you had, but don’t know how to get back there without pressure or resentment.
We might be a good fit If...
You're each quietly carrying more than your share whether it’s emotional labor, mental load, or unspoken grief, and it’s starting to spill over.
We might be a good fit If...
You find yourselves feeling more like teammates or roommates than partners. You’re getting through the days but missing the connection underneath.
We might be a good fit If...
The same arguments keep circling back sometimes about chores or parenting decisions, but underneath, they touch on old fears of being unseen, unheard, or left alone.
We might be a good fit If...
Parenting has stirred up past wounds from your own childhood or from old relationship patterns, and now you find yourselves more easily hurt, more reactive, or more guarded with each other.
We might be a good fit If...
You want to be able to talk about the hard stuff, but conversations easily slide into defensiveness, shutdown, or misunderstanding, leaving both of you feeling alone in it.
We might be a good fit If...
You long to feel connected in this new chapter not just as parents, but as partners who can support each other’s tender spots, repair quickly when you hurt each other, and grow stronger together through it all.
Becoming parents is both the most beautiful and the most disorienting shift a couple can face. Suddenly, the way you connect, argue, and comfort each other takes on new weight not just for you, but for your growing family. Therapy gives you a space to steady yourselves, to feel less alone in the chaos, and to grow closer instead of drifting apart.
What we’ll work on together in therapy
Couples therapy for New Parents Hermosa Beach and Los Angeles
Understanding how your earliest relationships shaped the way you show up now
If you learned as a kid to silence your needs, perform for approval, or walk on eggshells, those strategies don’t just disappear when you become a parent. We’ll look at how those early roles are still running the show especially when you’re tired, stressed, or needing support from your partner.
Interrupting autopilot responses
You’ll start to notice how quickly you shut down, snap, over-accommodate, or retreat -not to judge yourself, but so we can get curious about what part of you is showing up, and what it needs. This isn’t about “better communication tips,” it’s about understanding the emotional logic underneath your reactions.
Making space for your individual experience
Whether you're the birthing parent or not, early parenting brings grief, identity loss, anxiety, and tenderness. This is a place to name those parts without guilt, so you don’t have to carry everything quietly while pretending to be okay.
Relearning how to turn toward each other
Instead of slipping into resentment, scorekeeping, or shutting down emotionally, therapy helps you create a relationship where you feel seen in the chaos. We’ll work on how to repair disconnection without blaming or collapsing.
Rebalancing the invisible labor
Not just who changes more diapers, but who holds the fear, the planning, the emotional safety for the family. We’ll name the unspoken expectations and work toward something that actually feels mutual and sustainable.
Shifting generational patterns
We’ll explore the kind of parent you want to be: one who responds instead of reacts, who doesn’t pass on what hurt you, and who has the emotional capacity to stay present. That starts with you having space to feel supported and human, too.
Working through communication patterns that create more disconnection
Maybe one of you shuts down, the other presses harder or both avoid when uncomfortable. Maybe things feel like a never-ending to-do list, and your emotional life has fallen off the radar. We’ll get underneath those cycles, slow them down, and help you practice expressing needs, boundaries, and emotions without shame, resentment or walking on eggshells.
Cultivating intimacy in a season that doesn’t feel sexy
Parenthood changes everything - including how you feel in your body, your relationship to touch, and your capacity for closeness. We’ll talk honestly about how to find new forms of emotional, physical, and playful intimacy that actually feel good to both of you instead of recreating pressure or rejection.
