Neurodiverse couples therapy isn’t about fixing or changing who you are; it’s about learning how to truly see and be seen by each other. When one or both partners process life through ADHD, autism, sensory sensitivities, or executive functioning differences, everyday moments can feel like you’re speaking two different dialects of the same language. You love each other, yet the way you give and receive connection might not always line up. A question meant with curiosity might land as criticism. A request for space might be heard as rejection. Over time, these mismatched rhythms can create a loop of misunderstanding not because you’re incompatible, but because your relationship wasn’t built on the same default settings.
Therapy for Neurodiverse Couples in Los Anegeles
Neurodiverse couples counseling in Hermosa Beach and Los Angeles
Finding Your Rhythm Together
Over time, these differences can unintentionally create cycles of misunderstanding, where one partner might feel unheard while the other feels criticized or misunderstood. It’s not about a lack of effort; it’s about the need for a different kind of map.
In therapy, we slow the pace so both of you have space to not just talk about what’s happening between you, but to explore how it feels inside of you. We’ll work on:
How your brains and nervous systems respond to stress, and how to recognize early signs before conflict escalates.
How emotional safety can feel different depending on your neurology, and how to bridge those gaps without forcing either of you to suppress who you are.
How to build connection without pressure to conform by finding ways to meet in the middle that feel supportive instead of exhausting.
Here, there’s no expectation to become “more like” each other. Instead, the goal is to become more fluent in each other’s emotional language so that you can feel safe, seen, and understood in a way that feels natural to both of you.
We might be a good fit If...
You’re doing your best, but it still feels like you and your partner are speaking different emotional languages, and you’re both exhausted by the misfires.
Neurodiverse couples counseling in Hermosa Beach and Los Angeles
We might be a good fit If...
You want a space where your differences are seen without judgment- not as deficits but as meaningful parts of who you both are.
We might be a good fit If...
You’re craving more safety and clarity not just in communication, but in how you show up for one another.
We might be a good fit If...
You’re ready to slow down and look underneath the surface of your dynamic- not just what’s happening but also why, and how to shift the patterns that leave you feeling stuck.
We might be a good fit If...
You don’t want your relationship to require either of you to disappear. You’re longing for a partnership where both of you can be fully seen and accepted, without one person shrinking or over-adapting to make it work.
We might be a good fit If...
You want to get better at repairing after conflict so disagreements don’t have to spiral into days of distance or resentment.
We might be a good fit If...
You’re open to experimenting with new ways of connecting that honor both partners’ needs, rhythms, and styles of processing.
We might be a good fit If...
You appreciate slowing down and making space for reflection, especially when things feel messy, overwhelming, or painful.
We might be a good fit If...
You’re looking for a therapist who gets it, and who can hold both of your experiences with care, clarity, and respect.
What we’ll work on together in therapy
Neurodiverse couples counseling in Hermosa Beach and Los Angeles
EMOTIONAL REGULATION AND CO REGULATION
We’ll focus on managing stress, shutdown, and overwhelm helping you both respond instead of react. By slowing down your nervous systems, you’ll learn how to find steadier ground in moments that once felt like they swept you away.
EMOTIONAL LANGUAGES
Together, we’ll uncover the “hidden needs” underneath each partner’s behaviors. This means learning to hear what’s really being communicated, even when it comes out as frustration, withdrawal, or something hard to understand.
Flexibility and Adaptability
Life rarely goes exactly according to plan especially when your brains process situations differently. Therapy is a space to practice flexibility, so you can meet each other with less rigidity and more openness when things feel unexpected.
Supportive Structures and Repair
We’ll create routines and structures that support both your nervous systems and strengthen your connection. Alongside this, you’ll develop ways to offer feedback, repair after conflict, and keep evolving together as a team.
CLEAR COMMUNICATION
We’ll build communication tools that are not just kind and emotionally fluent, but also concrete and accessible for both of you. This way, neither partner feels left behind, and both voices can truly be heard.
REWRITING YOUR SHARED STORY
Instead of seeing differences as barriers, we’ll work on reframing them as part of your strength. Together, you’ll build a shared story that honors your individuality while celebrating your relationship as a place of belonging.
