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The fear of being alone is a common psychological fear that involves the fear of being without the presence or support of others. It can stem from a variety of underlying fears, such as fear of rejection, abandonment, or not being good enough.  The fear of being alone can greatly impact our relationships, as it […]

The Fear of Being Alone

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Perfectionism is a complex trait that often stems from the belief that one must be perfect to be loved. This belief can be deeply ingrained, and it can shape our self-worth and influence our relationships. It can also impact our mental health, leading to anxiety and depression. But perfectionism can be managed. Through affirmations, self-compassion, […]

Needing to be perfect in order to be loved

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When we talk about couples therapy, the word “communication” comes up a lot. With that in mind, I want to talk about one specific model of communication styles, Virginia Satir’s Model of Communication. This model introduces four distinct communication stress styles: Placater, Blamer, Computer, and Distracter. Communication stress styles refer to the different ways in […]

Communication Styles

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Family plays a crucial role in shaping individuals’ identities and relationships. I want to explore the significance of family roles, and how they impact individuals. Each family member often assumes a specific role within their family dynamic, and often that can inform how they show up in relationships. We will delve into how these roles […]

What role did you play growing up in your family of origin?

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In love and relationships, we often find ourselves entangled in the allure of fantasies, shielding us from the rawness that is real life. As a couples therapist, it’s crucial to navigate through these illusions and guide couples toward accepting their love as it truly is. Today, I want to delve into the dichotomy of life’s […]

Unveiling the Fantasy: Embracing Real Love in Relationships

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Have you ever wondered why is anger the most acceptable male emotion? From our family of origin to our relationships, the expression of male rage and anger is often seen as a sign of strength. But is it healthy? And what are the implications of this societal norm that is so deeply rooted in our […]

Anger as the most acceptable emotion for men

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Are feelings real? Are we feeling reality? Feelings are a fundamental part of our human experience as they guide our actions, shape our relationships, and influence our perceptions of the world. Yet, understanding the relationship between feelings can be complex. Are feelings reality? Or are they merely subjective experiences, distinct from the objective world? Read […]

Are feelings real?

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As a couples therapist, I often witness the profound impact that effective communication can have on relationships. One approach that I find particularly powerful in fostering understanding and connection is Nonviolent Communication (NVC). In this blog, we’ll explore the four key components of NVC and how they can help couples navigate challenges and deepen their […]

Enhancing Connection: A Therapist’s Guide to Effective Communication in Relationships

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In relationships, effective communication stands as the cornerstone, and at its heart lies the often overlooked art of listening. As a couples therapist, I’ve witnessed how genuine listening can deepen connections, foster understanding, and ultimately strengthen the bond between partners. The Power of Listening Listening goes beyond merely hearing words; it’s a commitment and a […]

The Art of Listening in Relationships: Listening as the Most Important Communication Skill

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If you’re finding yourself wondering if you need to get a divorce, there’s clearly a part of your relationship that needs some love. Relationships are nuanced and highly personal, so while I can’t tell you whether or not you need to get a divorce, I can explore with you the reasons that may have left […]

Navigating Complex Crossroads: Should I Stay or Should I Go?